The importance of being earnest

If only I was talking about the Oscar Wilde play. That'd make for a much more silly post.


But no. This is about one of my unshakable principles. Dictionary.com's second definition is the one I want to focus on. "Showing depth and sincerity of feeling."


Being sincere is lost in our society. It's funny a guy who considers himself to have a very sarcastic, dry sense of humor is all about being sincere as much as possible, but it's true. There's nothing worse than trying to get a group of people over for a party and having hugely positive okays, emphatic most definitelys and undoubted for sures from others just to have them all bail when the event comes around.


Is it that hard to just mean what you say? I know it's difficult to be self assured to the point one can stand behind his or her words because failing to meet your own expectations sucks. No one wants to be a hypocrite. Hypocrisy is universally hated. The fastest way to get on people's bad sides is to have the appearance of being a hypocrite.


I suppose I would encourage those who feel someone is a hypocrite to give that person a chance. Everyone makes mistakes, even those with conviction and power behind their words.


The event in my life making me think about this topic is pretty messed up. Long story short, I'm in love with a girl who's married to a guy that completely changed after they got married. It seems to me there's a complete lack of functional communication between the two of them, and it drives me nuts. There was a specific situation that happened yesterday that caused a lightbulb to shatter. Not just turn on, but overheat and just burst with a "!" moment.


You just have to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Nothing is worth being unsaid forever. I'm not saying don't exercise tact, but if something is burning a hole in you, it's not worth worrying about the reactions of other people. People always show their true colors when you don't allow them to play games with you.


Sorry this post was pretty serious. I'm simply at my wit's end with a situation. The outcome is massively important to my happiness and I have absolutely no control over it. I suppose these are the type of occurances which cause the best times to think, though, and discover what really matters to one's self.